Sunday, April 19, 2009

Sunday's Heartfelt Challenge.....

This is a post that has been rumbling around in my head...but I wasn't sure how to frame it for my blog. The last thing I want to post is a "poor, pitiful me" entry...but I know that there are far more women (and men) that are going through something similar and it is for them that I am writing this.
So to start.....what is a Heartfelt Challenge? It is a reminder in our busy lives to reach out to those around us. It is not that we don't mean to do something special for someone else...we just get really busy...or we think of things that will take more time, more money--so the idea gets shelved for another time. By issuing a challenge...I am giving you an idea for something simple you can do...not a guilt trip, but just a nudge and a reminder that it can be something as simple as just picking up the phone.

I am in a situation that many find themselves in. My hubby is very ill. We have days that are great...and then we have days that are like the last three...where no one has had any sleep...we are all cranky, worn out and just want to hide for a bit. I am very fortunate...I have a best friend that I can call to whine to at 3 in the morning if I need too, my son is home right now--living here while attending school so he can help me out a bit (this is such a huge gift to me that I don't even know how to thank him for---and it comes with the guilt that he should be out living and creating his own life), my mom is nearby and checks in and is always sending over a new plate of some new recipe she has tried!!

But there are others dealing with these same it a spouse, child, parent, or can be so isolating!! People can judge you for being a bit (or maybe a lot) cranky at times--they don't realize the nights you have gone without sleep...or worried about finances....or just feeling alone. Living with this is much like a death.....when friends and family first hear of a health crisis, they rally to lend support, pray and just a listening ear. But even though you continue to live with this...their lives move on and you are dropped from the social calendar because you have had to turn them down so many times. They just take for granted that you "can't" and just don't bother to offer any more.

I can't tell you what it means for someone just to take the time to pick up the phone and call....and allow you to really share your heart...and not just pretend everything is wonderful. We get tired of hearing, "I don't know how you do it"....because we know that there are days when we are at the ends of our rope and we don't handle it well and just want to go to bed ourselves, pull the covers over our heads and hide for awhile. A card in the mail is a gift.....just that reminder that someone does remember you!! These are great ways to let someone know you are a visit to the home can sometimes be stressful, depending on what is going on there.

So our Heartfelt Challenge....pick up the phone or mail a card. It costs so little to do these things in time and money.....but what it will do for someone that needs this lift.....priceless. Find someone in your church, your neighborhood, your workplace...and reach out to them!! It will do wonders for your heart as well.

Hugs to all of you!!!


  1. First of all I want to let you know that you will be in my prayers. It is very difficult to have someone you love who is so sick and who needs so much care. It isn't just the patient who needs our concern, but those who take care of him.
    I was just talking to my DH a while ago about how i need to send a card to the parents and grandparents of our daughter's best friend who was killed in a car wreck their senior year of high school on April 13. That would be 12 years ago. I send them a card every April and I haven't gotten around to it yet. You have nudged me just enough that if I don't do any thing else I will do that. I'm sure that if I think about it I will think of others who need a kind word or call or card, etc.... I know that my Mother who is in a nursing home loves getting mail and visits. I know other elderly people who are at home and probably very lonely. Hum you've got my mind churning now.

  2. Very well written Deb.

  3. Great post, important challenge. Hard to believe society has gotten so far away from doing things like this. Something so simple as sending someone a card or calling them to ask how they are doing, and really listen to the answer.

  4. Anonymous6:05 AM

    What a lovely post, Debbie. I couldn't agree more.

  5. Fabulous post - I'm going to link to it from my blog. I am so very sorry for what you're going through. Know that you are in our thoughts and prayers!

  6. What a good reminder, Deb. I know when I've been on the receiving end, it means more than words can express. A card or phone call is wonderful, but even a few words to acknowledge you know someone is suffering can mean so much.

  7. This is a beautiful challenge.

    It's heartbreaking that your husband is so ill. It's hard when someone you love has to suffer, and there isn't really a whole lot you can do about it.

    It's not whining to share your feelings about it. Sometimes we just need to be heard for a minute. It helps pick us back up.

    Have a great day.

  8. Thank you for issueing this challenge! It is so important that we remember to 'bear one another's burdens'. It makes life more bearable, to be sure!!!

    You are in my prayers!



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